The one piece of advice you need about womanhood

Forget all the other pieces of advice you have heard

This one actually matters........

 

As you prepare to become a "full adult" and as you move into new phases of life you will often encounter "shoulds " for each stage. These messages of what you should be doing can come from family members, friends, teachers, mentors, or targeted posts on social media (have you noticed that things are placed on your timeline based on your searches or demographics?). I have read more than my fair share of "What you should do by the time you are 30" or "Things to do in your 20s" type posts and I want to share my own wisdom.

Life is a unique experience for each person. I have known women close to my grandmother's age that went back to school for a first or new degree. I have met a woman that decided to take up sky diving at the ripe age of 70. Living your life based on others, especially others who don't know your story, is a great way to set yourself up for failure and disappointment. You will be trying to meet guidelines for someone else's life and may find later that you haven't done what you want to do with your life. Another side effect of reading and subscribing to these lists is thinking that if you haven’t been able to check things off yet that you should just throw in the towel. i.e. haven’t started college by 20= school's not for me.

So with this in mind, my advice is much more practical and it involves clothes.



 

One piece from my Cato's shopping trip

When you are in school {high school and college}there are always opportunities to purchase a shirt for this or that thing. Also there are plenty of times when you can get shirts for free. These shirts can seem meaningless and may be something you consider tossing when you are "so done with childish things". I would suggest keeping some and also getting a few of them in a size or two bigger than you currently wear.

1. Not everyone gains size changing weight as they age, but everyone's body changes (boobies, babies, muscle gains)
2. Nothing can prepare you for how nice fitting into a high school or college shirt in your 30's feels
3. People stop giving you free shirts as you age and when you have to pay to stay in a hotel, pay for away from home food etc. for reunions trust me you will want a shirt in school colors that is $free.99
4. There will come a time when you want to remember the experiences that made you who you are, for many people those times occur in school

End practical advice, go enjoy life.